So, here we are, on the Eve of a brand spanking new year.
It’s popular right now for the cool kids to dismiss making resolutions, declaring they are unattainable or that they set us up for failure.
Maybe. But there is something about the human spirit that wants to start fresh…that seems to need the hope that the new year brings.
And why not? Most of us want to do better…or be a better version of ourselves. So instead of giving up on resolutions for fear of failure, maybe we should think a little differently about what we are really wanting to achieve.
Resolutions: What’s Really Going on?
Have you ever wondered what is at the heart of your goals or what is feeding the specific things you hope to attain? What if I were to suggest that underneath every resolution is a hope and striving to experience a feeling.
For example, you might set a goal to add three more projects to your portfolio. But what you are hoping to feel is validated or more accomplished. You might resolve to give up smoking in order to feel healthy, clean or in control. Or, setting certain travel goals might make you feel adventurous, badass or alive. We may resolve to give up certain relationships because we need to feel empowered and healthy.
Join me in an upcoming virtual workshop where we will explore our hearts’ desires.
Think about some goals. How will it make you feel to get that promotion, eat those veggies, lose those pounds, break up with that person, take dance lessons, organize that closet, learn a new language, or spend more time with your kids?
How do You What to Feel in 2016?
It may seem like a subtle shift, but it can be profound. It allows us to transform our to-do list into a vibrant pathway of adventure while removing the burden and disappointment of traditional resolutions because you can’t really ‘fail’. As we realize that it is the feeling we really want, our goals can morph and evolve. We can feel free to adjust, tweek and change paths on our way to creating a life we want.
- Take a piece of paper and divide it into four sections with a marker
- Label each section as four major areas of your life: Work, Body, Relationships, Intellect Spirituality, etc. Whatever you choose.
- In each section, write a few positive feelings about how you want to feel in this area.
- Now, ask yourself, “What can I do to feel that way?”